I want my music for my wedding day…
No one is saying you can’t, but here a few things to bear in mind if you are thinking of having non typical party music. This doesn’t mean you have to have cheesy songs, seriously it doesn’t. But if you’re into your Thrash, Rock or Indie more than your Pop, Disco or Motown – some things to consider…
Now let me start by saying I have played to a couple’s playlist before, and been told not to add any of my own, or accept requests and had great nights. But I have also had not so good nights like this as well. And as much as I am open to your ideas and musical guidance, you have to think of your guests, and allow your DJ some creative control.
A good DJ will keep within your musical parameters. But also think of your guests who have travelled miles, some hundreds or even thousands, to have a party with close friends and family. Only to be greeted with Thrash metal, Heavy Rock or Dance music all night. It might not be the most pleasurable experiences for all your guests.
Two Part Party
In these circumstances I always try to split the night subtly between early and late. The early part you can use more for the other types of music. Whether it’s party classics from most eras, or more mainstream songs from your playlist, it’s a good idea. I’m not saying you have to have stuff you don’t like or detest, but bear in mind parents & grandparents. They might like to get up and boogie a little early doors.
You will probably be relaxing as the party finally gets under way. Meeting and greeting evening guests and not too fussed about what does or doesn’t happen on the dance floor. So why not give your guests an hour or 2 to stretch their legs before you get down to your music. Also, as it will have been a long day, some of the older guests could be the 1st to leave. So let them go home happy they’ve had a moment on the dance floor. You didn’t mind because you were saying “do you remember “with your friends at the bar, or talking about the day to the late arrivals.
Your Party Time
Then in the 2nd half of the evening it’s more your kind of music so you and your friends can go for it. Also best to consider that your wedding day is a long day, so having a condensed 2/3hours of your party music might be better than an extended 5/6hr set that draws out too long and alienates some of the guests. It can end up being a bit of a negative instead of an inspired choice.
All in all
At the end of the day you know your guests, you know your music. Spare some of the party time for your guests, allow your DJ some creative control, and enjoy the evening. Remember if your guests having a great time, you’ll have a great time with them.
I’d love hear any thoughts and experiences you have had, where there was only one type of music or guests not catered for….. Just comment below, all the best, David.